Instead, as the world is his oyster, he will opt for what is easy — the breath of fresh air a young girl who is fun and light gives. Please stop reading unless you are prepared to see through the harsh words and understand the underlying reason for his statements. Author and OkCupid co-founder Christian Rudder says women in their 20s tend to like a man who is slightly older, and when they reach their 30s, women prefer a man who is a few years younger. How many of us can relate to being dumped by a guy who said he wasn’t ready, only to find out that he proposed to someone else? As one very astute commentator has pointed out, the trend foretells a very worrying future for Quaid’s future engagement prospects.

If you’re dating a girl 10, 15 or 20+ years younger than you, then it’s often natural to feel that this is too good to be true and the relationship won’t last. But the truth is, the only reason relationships with an age difference don’t work out is because one of the partners in the relationship becomes obsessed about age and can’t get over it. Stability, a strong sense of self, and advancement in his career are things older men can potentially bring to the table more often than a man in his 20s or 30s can, says Sherman. “People often ask whether an older man is more mature than a younger one,” Sherman adds. “It depends upon the individual and their development and history. That said, extra years of life experience do often lead to greater maturity in relationships, and more life wisdom.” My husband is only 14 years older than me and we are in different stages of ageing.

Politics and Social Issues

When it comes to dating older, women have the advantage. The acceptable maximum ages of Lauren’s partners were consistently higher than John’s by around 3.5 years. According to this rule, society should accept a 50 year old man dating a 32 year old woman. Reactions ranged from “sure” to “that’s weird” to “why are you asking me this? When I flipped the genders — a 50 year old woman dating a 32 year old man — people’s responses often flipped as well.

Late 20s is the Zone of Anxiety and 30s is the Zone of Bitterness. Women in their late twenties walk around with a ticking time bomb. Every minute takes them closer to their 30s where everything goes downhill and they get closer to being alone the rest of their lives with a thousand cats. I wanted to know why, so I asked a real-life example of a guy who does this.

You get a sneak peek of his future.

Watch out especially for what I call Peter Pan types. They’ll woo you and then forget to pick you up for a date. They might text like crazy…and then stop texting for days. They have no consideration for your feelings, and are totally self-absorbed. On the other hand, your need to control might be something that attracts him.

Number 1: You’re going to get judged, so get ready for it now

Men who message older women are more likely to get a response than those who message younger woman, but it’s only a slight 2% increase. Men who message women their own age also see a 2% increase in their replies. The older men get, the younger the women they match with are. It could be that differences in new version FlirtySlapper age matter less as we get older, but the older men get the younger the women they match with are. Men in their 20s tend to match with women almost their same age while men in their 50s usually match with women who are three years younger. In addition, you can see the numbers increase as men get older.

You seem to be responding to everyone in the most mean ways. No man or woman would ever want to put up with your shit. If you have to hide it for long then that’s not good. This is very harsh, but unfortunately a harsh truth. Sometimes we don’t want someone to hold up a mirror, because it is painful.

Now it’s time to let the men speak for themselves. One important question we asked was what they felt an older woman has to offer. Here are some answers which are clear, articulate and to the point.

A large study of more than 12,000 participants in Finland found that most women prefer same-age or older male partners throughout life, while men, regardless of age, tend to prefer women in their 20s. Do older men mentally resist aging by dating younger partners? There’s much discussion but limited research on the topic. Some argue that this is yet another stereotyped cliche that doesn’t have much proof behind it. It’s not just the guys who are conforming to social norms.

Why Do Men Date Younger Women?

So, you both need to be open about your intentions and where your relationship is going to find the common ground. While her high sex drive is one of the things you started your relationship, soon you may find it extremely hard to satisfy her in bed. Moreover, not getting enough satisfaction from you, she may start looking for some sugar on the side, which can lead to you getting STDs. As we get older, our psyche becomes more rigid – it means we tend to listen to ourselves only and reject anything that brings changes to our life. Try to stay mentally young as long as possible and 20-something women won’t see you for an old grumbler.

Younger men who are attracted to older women for a relationship often find something in them that they’re not finding in women their age. In particular, they often find more maturity, wisdom, and emotional stability in older women. With maturity comes responsibility, and girls love a guy who can take responsibility. Younger gentlemen don’t have the same prospects of stability and self-assurance as the older man. Chances are, the older gent has a home, a mortgage and less of a ‘live month-to-month’ approach to his salary. As a younger guy, I used to flirt with my mom’s friends.

Recently, this woman underwent major surgery and it was her ex-boyfriend Fred, not the woman’s current older boyfriend, who was by her side. Gretchen, now 44, was involved with a man of 51 and he was simply too busy with work and personal commitments to be available when she really needed him. It was Fred who visited her on a regular basis and saw to it that she had what she needed during her recuperation. You fall in love with the person and overlook their age. Other times, it’s actually the energy, appearance, and life perspective of a younger woman that may be attractive to an older man.

So if the two of you feel like you’re in the stage of the relationship where combining finances could be in the near future, it’s important to be honest about where your money is going. But you have to be sure you’re on the same emotional maturity level as him. Otherwise, “all of the things that can tend to make a relationship work—shared experience, values, communication, ability to handle conflict—could become obstacles or areas of disconnect,” Hendrix says. But there are a few things you should consider before jumping into a relationship like this, including emotional maturity, finances, children, ex-wives, and so much more.